Finding Positivity In Whatever We Find
That is an excellent question because it takes so much to answer it or to uplift ourselves during our adult years. While being an adult offers much independence & wisdom, it also comes with much responsibility and darkness, and those can be more challenging than we imagine.
While you were a kid, it was easy to dream of growing up because grown-ups have cell phones, drive cars, wear adult-sized clothes or makeup, or experience interesting things our bodies go through. But when you reach adulthood, you learn the hard way that it's not exactly what you imagined. While it grants some liberation, it doesn't come free of duties, obligations or challenges we never thought possible when we were kids. We have to pay bills, buy groceries, make even the toughest decisions we never wanted to.
This is why I advise young people to make and enjoy their childhoods as best as they could. Words of wisdom to share, "Childhood is such a short season." All you, young people, make as many memories for your childhood and adolescence before you can walk through that door to adulthood. Make as many memories as you can.
To the adults who are struggling, you are not alone. No one is. We are all in this boat together. It's rocky, dizzying, sickening and worrisome. Many of us would like to get off that boat to escape the pain. I've felt that way before lots of times. There've been so many days when I just felt I had enough and wanted to escape where I am to a place I can just disappear to. Perhaps go on a long vacation until I feel I can face life again.
Sometimes I wish I could just easily open a door that connects to Heaven and walk through it to experience the peace & healing it offers. And visit the people I love who passed before me. Sadly, it doesn't happen like that so I have to find other ways to "visit" Heaven. And I believe there are. Sometimes I overlook them.
I feel heavenly peace when I visit the temple grounds. For me, as a Latter-day Saint (Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints), it's a realm of Heaven, a place where I can truly feel the presence of God surrounding me and filling me up. Joy and peace are what it gives me. It's a personal manifestation that there is a God up there who watches over His children and send heavenly angels to minister & comfort them. That's what I hold onto during my dark, lonely times. At least that's what works for me coming from a person who believes in God.
Some people don't believe in God as I do, and I respect that. So how do I recommend them to find ways in holding on during their depression? Find positivity in whatever brings the right kind of peace. I've found that talking to someone, whether a therapist, a family member or a friend, usually helps because that's how you release the negative energy and consume the positive one.
Because I love to write stories, poems or journal entries, putting my thoughts on paper is a healing way for me as well. Despite not doing it as much, I've also loved doing art on my sketchbook, my iPad, or on a canvas because I discover something meaningful that applies to me personally. And if I feel inspired to, I share it online and others feel connected to it, too.
Turning on music and listening to it has been helpful for me, especially when I find a song that speaks to my heart. It gives me the courage and the strength to face my struggles with a positive outlook.
Reading a good book or watching a heartfelt movie teaches or re-teaches, if it's something familiar, about the important life lessons I need to keep in mind and use for myself or to help others struggling. Relying on good media helps not only once, but can help indefinitely during my melancholic times.
Other ways I use are exercise like walking. Even if it's only for five minutes, that brief walk can pump up my endorphins. Thus, it helps me to be happy, and "happy people don't kill [other people]," (Legally Blonde).
One of the most important things I do my best to tell myself is to count my blessings. It's an easy chore to forget or neglect, but it always helps me to remember how blessed I am with the blessings and benefits I have. I try to count my blessings, naming them one by, even the smallest blessings.
One of my greatest blessings is the book of scriptures--the Holy Bible, the Book of Mormon, the Doctrine & Covenants, and the Pearl of Great Price--because they provide wisdom and peace as I try to live my life as a good-hearted person daily. They are the Words of God.
My other greatest blessings are my family because they provide love, support, wisdom and joy to my life. We aren't perfect because we're human, but we love each other and try to be good people every day. We try to help each other through the pains we endure. In some ways, we succeed in helping each other get through the pain. In other ways, we can't because we sometimes have to look for help in others besides our family.
What we do with the pain is our greatest matter. Some pain I have healed from. But there are other pieces of my heart I need to work on healing still. So, I'm a work in progress. But, who isn't, except Jesus?
We're always gonna have pain, I've learned that the hard way. Some will go away after it's healed. Others unfortunately don't because there's no cure, no treatment or any way to lift these burdens. All we could do is use the right medicine to help us get through our ailments, whether physical, emotional, mental or spiritual. Once it does, our ability to go through life doesn't weaken but strengthen. And in time, our pains become meaningless to us. They don't keep us down. We remain in good standing and walk confidently toward a better tomorrow.
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